• Few people excel at any skill without thoughtful consideration and practice, and social skills are no exception.

• Conveying Value Early And Fast When you are introduced to someone or put into a social situation where people don't know you, your first goal should be to convey as quickly as possible what makes you interesting and worth knowing.

• Conveying Value Early And Fast   When you are introduced to someone or put into a social situation where people don't know you, your first goal should be to convey as quickly as possible what makes you interesting and worth knowing.

• Consider what about you makes you valuable as a friend, and whenever you're in a new social situation, think about which of your assets will most be appreciated by that group and work on conveying them. Do it early in the interaction and then move on to getting to know everyone else.

• As in many life situations, there's a big difference between “playing not to lose” and “playing to win”. You can go through your entire life without ever giving anyone a reason to dislike you, but still not make a single close friend. On the other hand, you can give a lot of people reasons to not like you and still create a great group of friends with other people.